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1060 I am worried about my husband. He drinks, never read Namaz except Friday sometime and spend most of the time with friends. I tell him that you spend 6-7 hours with them but it only takes 10-15 mins for Namaz, so why don’t you read Namaz. He responds by saying: you do your job.

He eats everything except pork and also drinks. I can’t bear his unislamic way anymore and needs to change his daily routine. As a wife what is my duties, he always comes late 1-2 am. I can't sleep then I fight with him.
Living a life against the commands of Allah (SWT), holds grave consequences. As Muslims it is imperative that we follow the laws of the Creator in order to obtain success in this world and in the hereafter.

It should be explained to the husband that this life is only of a small span, whereas the hereafter is eternal. However this should be done in a loving way and not in a form of argument, as by using this approach you will be met with much resistance.

Your role as a wife is a difficult one as only your husband is the one who is responsible for his actions and he is the one who needs to make changes which result in following the commands of Allah (S.W.T). You can only but, encourage him to leave his sinful ways.

A Dua that comes to mind is that, If a person neglects his religion or is involved in evils, one should recite Surah Al Bakarah (Para 1), Ayah 5, 101 times for 41 days, blow on water and make him drink it. Inshallah it will be beneficial.

May Allah (S.W.T) give you the strength and patience to stay steadfast in this test of Allah (S.W.T), guide your Husband onto the right path and bring Blessing into your household. (Ameen).

As for the rights of the Wife/Husband in marriage, please refer to Q982, Q985 and 1024 on our website. Furthermore refer to similar questions relating to yours, on our website. You may find them helpful.

(Answered by: Hafiz Mohammed Akhtar)
Category (Marriage / Divorce)