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217 I am concerned about this question for a long period of time. I believe to go to Dargah of Allahs beloved men, but I have heard from many sources that it is not good for a woman to go to any Dargah (Darbar) as Allah (S.W.T) appoint Angels to curse the woman soon she starts her Journey from Home to any Dargah (Darbar) and that curse continues by the Angels until she comes back home.

Can you please clarify this for me along with the relevant citations of Quran (where possible) and Hadith.
Wa Alai Kum Asalaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu. Sister we hope this reaches you in good state of health and Imaan inshallah.

Your question with the reference refers to a particular Islamic methodology of visiting the graves of the pious people. Ulama have a difference of opinion on the matter, but to the Majority of Ahle Sunnah Wal Jammah; Hanafi school Scholars it is permissible for a female to visit Darbars of Awlia Allah alaihi rahmah (with some rules to adhere to). We will explain this below as simply as possible.

We must understand that all the Quran Pak and Hadith Shareef was revealed in events, therefore the reference you refer to (in your question) was given when there was the fear that people who were new to Islam, may indulge themselves into the habit of worshipping graves after so many years of having the habit of worshipping idols. When Islam was fully established and confirmed (rasikh), then that prohibition became mansukh (abrogated).

Then RasoolAllah (S.A.W) said “nahayta kum an ziyaratil quburi fa zuruha” interpretation of the meaning “I prohibited you from visiting the graves, NOW VISIT THEM” and furthermore Hazrat-e-Aisha (R.A) visited the Grave of the Prophet (S.A.W) and did so without veil (Hijab) and she later again visited Roza tun Nabi (S.A.W) after Hazret Abu Bakr Siddique RA was buried next to RasoolAllah (S.A.W) and did so without veil (Hijab) and then she visited again after Hazret Umar-e-Farooque (R.A) was buried next and this time she observed the veil (Hijab).

Another Hadith relates that Hazret e Aisha (R.A) asked RasoolAllah (S.A.W) what she (R.A) should read when visiting a grave and he (S.A.W) taught her a dua, and not prohibited her from visiting.

So on the basis of the above evidences a woman can visit Dargah. However there are some guidelines to follow i.e. she is with a Mehram in travel and does not mix with Gher Mehrams at the Dargah (Most Dargahs now provide separate facility). The visiting woman should know the etiquettes of visiting a Dargah of an Awlia Allah (R.A).
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