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627 18 months ago, my husband, who I have been married to for 18 years and have 3 daughters with, met a 17 year old girl (she was a prostitute) in a night club in Morocco. He took drugs with her, slept with her and then married her 2 days later Islamically (not with legal papers). He thought I would accept this girl as a 2nd wife and couldn't understand why I wouldn't accept her.

I went to Morocco a few months later and met this awful person and her family, who were what I would consider a very bad family. This has almost destroyed my 15 year old daughter. He beat me in front of the girl and her family and took my money to spend on her. I went to see a 'religious' man who told me her family had done black magic on my husband (he had never strayed before and I trusted him completely).

Our marriage had been very strong and we were like soul mates and I couldn't understand how he had betrayed me so easily. After I told him about the black magic, he claimed to have finished with her and we tried to rebuild our marriage, but the trust has gone and I recently found out he has been sending her money every month, but not been giving anything to me and the kids. I now feel completely disgusted with him and feel so much hate towards him. He claims he felt an obligation to her which is why he sent the money to her.

He is begging me to believe him, but I feel I can never trust him or forgive him. My daughter tells me she hates him and doesn't want him to live with us. Please help me. I need to know what to do about this, Islamically.

It always seems that Allah exposes all the things he does behind my back. I feel that Allah is showing me how my husband is no good for me and I beg Allah to guide me on what to do, but every day I feel torn between staying with him and leaving him. Please can you help me to understand the situation and what the Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) would have advised in a situation like this? I thank you for taking the time to read this. Kind regards.
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